Just going to chill and chat online?

Sometimes when you're single, and even over 50, it makes you a prime target for scammers.  You certainly need to be on your guard if you're involved with any online social networks. Of course... anyone can be a target.... not just our age group. Like the story published on the CBC website titled "Man tried to blackmail women he met on dating site"  -- this guys was convincing women to share sexual videos of themselves with him, and then afterwards tried to blackmail them.

The man in this story was caught and charged, but there are smarter scammers  out there, and it's possible they can't be charged. I'm going to share a story with you out of my personal experience with Facebook.

I got an email a few months ago that a young lady, Betty (not her real name) had sent me a request to add her as a friend. It was during the work week and I was going through my messages pretty fast. I meant to click the link to learn more about her, as I didn't recognize her name. Instead, I accidentally clicked the wrong link and added her as a friend. Well, I thought, no harm. I clicked through her profile; she didn't have a lot of information on it, but there were a couple of pictures of her with a small boy. She claimed to be 27 years old, live in the southern states and was single.

I didn't think too much about it and then a few days later I got an email from her saying, "Hey there, big Steve. How come a handsome man like you is still single?"

This wasn't my first experience with a young woman looking for a sugar daddy. So I sent her an email back asking what her game was, how much money she hoped to get out of me... and then suggested she forget the whole thing and go find a young man her own age to date.

Then I came to find out, that she had been going through my friends list on Facebook and sending friend requests to other single men over 50 and claiming to be a friend of mine. So my friends were adding her.

After she had read my reply to her message she instantly de-friended me, but it was too late for some of my friends. She struck up a conversation with some of them and moved it along pretty quickly until days later when she told them a "sob" story and then asked for money. I've actually had two friends email me about this.

Technically, I suppose her action isn't illegal; although it could be -- I don't know. But it might turn out a lot worse. What if she stated sending these men nude pictures of herself and then after receiving money and doctoring a few emails, turn around and try and blackmail these men? It's possible she could threaten to go to the police and claim the men were blackmailing her to send nude photos of herself. Then she emails these men with this threat of what she will do unless they want to cough up some serious cash.

Hopefully, the two friends who emailed me about her have de-friended her and aren't having any more to do with her. I don't really know if she would go to these lengths, but she did approach one of them for money. I don't know if he has sent her any. I warned both of them that I figured she was a scammer and not to contact her anymore.

For that matter, she might not even be a woman. The Jamaica Star online published a story a couple of months ago titled "LUSTING MEN CAUGHT IN SCAM - Facebook used in latest con".

If my friends and I can get caught up in this kind of scam, you can too.  The book pictured to the left titled Outsmarting the Scam Artists: How to Protect Yourself From the Most Clever Cons is written by Doug Shadel and is available in paperback form Amazon.  He says, "While anyone can be targeted, many victims are older." In his book you will:

  • Get practical tips to combat all kinds of scams, from simple lottery tickets to non-existent oil and gas deals and religious ponzi schemes
  • Learn how to protect yourself by securing your mailbox and fraud-proofing your trash
  • Get inside the head of sophisticated scam artists to discover how you can become the type of individual they avoid

Some of this book is based on other types of scams, but the underlying theme is the same as "Betty" uses. She appeals to your emotions, and gets you to "buy" into send her money. Watch now as the author of the book talks about this very thing.

And you know what the worse thing is about this? Many of these crimes, and in particularly social crimes go un-reported. The victims feel stupid; they feel it's their own fault -- they should have known better.

Have a look at Outsmarting the Scam Artists: How to Protect Yourself From the Most Clever Cons on the Amazon website. Perhaps it will save you money and help keep you safe.

Sitting in your big comfy chair at home with a blanket wrapped around your shoulders and using your laptop to surf the web and chat with friends on Facebook (or any other social network) doesn't mean you're safe.... even if your doors are locked.





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Not a perfect fit

A recent experience inspired this post. It's all about "fitting in" and whether or not it's something to worry about.

I want to drive traffic to this website of course so I thought I would list it with some blog directories. Some of the better ones review each submission, and they don't list yours unless they approve of your blog and content.

An email I received back this morning from Goblog4i said:

We are sorry to inform you that your blog Submission titled as "50 + alone" has been disapproved and deleted from our Site, as it did not fulfill some of our minimum required criteria for blog Approval.

A second email I received this morning, this time from Blog Directory List said:


50+ and Alone Hey, nice blog:)

We reviewed your blog and we love it and has now been included in our blog directory.  Blog Directory List.

All this does is prove that old saying "you can't please everyone, all of the time" and as far as I am concerned, you shouldn't even try to.

I suppose this is more true for those of us over fifty. From observing my teenage daughter and her friends it certainly isn't true. Teenagers always want to "fit in" and they go to great lengths to do this. They need to wear certain brands of clothes. Their hair has to be styled the right way... we seem to lose this as we get older. No... I'm not talking about just the hair 😉

Once you're over 50, no one seems to care what you look like. Your friends and family are just glad you're alive. Yes, we've all had some losses along the way with friends and family who left us, to what we perceive as, before their time.

So if you're alive, and I hope that you are if you're reading this, let's not be concerned about trying to please everyone. Let's live our lives for ourselves.





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Watching Sports….

One of the greatest things about single again is there isn't any fight over the TV remote. You can watch sports 24 hours a day if you want to.

The AAF World Junior Championships last weekend in Barcelona certainly was entertaining. 19-year-old Michelle Jenneke who is a the Australian junior hurdler caught the eye of the media. I don't think it was for her ability to race, although she did fairly well. But her warm-up technique is a real winner. Here it is, in case you missed it:

It isn't any surprise that she is being " widely hailed online as "the world's sexiest hurdler." But there is some sad news too. Apparently she didn't qualify for the Olympics this summer. Perhaps all of the marriage proposals she has received will make up for this disappointment.




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Say “NO” to microwave popcorn

It's amazing the amount of toxic substances that ends up on our food, and even if it's labelled organic, according the FDA in the US, it means it isn't completely toxic free. Small amounts of toxins, that aren't supposed to be a health hazard are still added to even the purest of foods.

Sometimes it just isn't the food. Sometimes it's the method of preparing it. For example, did you know that microwave popcorn gives off a toxic, lung-damaging  gas when cooked?


According to the book, 25 Amazing Facts About Food (pictured left) :

Regulators and health professionals have known of this risk for decades, but always assumed that it would only affect people breathing in especially high concentrations in factory settings. Then in 2007, a man who regularly ate two bags of microwave popcorn every day was diagnosed with popcorn lung, proving that diacetyl enters the air and lungs when microwave popcorn is cooked. Anxious to reassure consumers, most microwave popcorn companies phased out diacetyl—only to replace it with chemicals that have the exact same effects.

There are several other kinds of popcorn and popcorn makers. You can look through a list of them at Amazon

The eBook is free and comes as a pdf, but you need to subscribe to the newsletter at naturalnews.com to get it. Once you get access to the download area, there are a number of other free reports worth checking out. The NaturalNews Network is a non-profit collection of public education websites covering topics that empower individuals to make positive changes in their health, environmental sensitivity, consumer choices and informed skepticism.




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Friends (who are couples) try to fix you up, yet your single friends don’t.

Why is it that couples who are friends try to fix you up, yet your single friends don't?

I had a call this week from a couple I'm friends with, who asked me if I would like to meet a friend of theirs. They gave me her name, and surprisingly enough.... I know who she is. And she is exactly as they described her: intelligent, beautiful, witty, loves music and mingling. No doubt! A perfect match!!!

My reply was, "No, but thank you. Maybe later after I get my teenage daughter grown up and moved out, I will consider dating. But I REALLY appreciate you thinking about ol' Steve!"

That's not a lie. I know they have my best interests at heart. But why is it couples do this to you when single friends don't? I don't really have an answer for this. Any guesses?

Of course, this phenomenon isn't the first time I've experienced it. I've been approached with the same topic numerous times from friends of mine who are couples. You would think they are all reading  Matchmaking From Fun to Profit: A Complete Guide to Turning Your Matchmaking Skills into a New Business (Matchmaking Institute).  Perhaps if they read this book they would have better luck....

I have a theory about it! Maybe it's crazy; may it isn't. You're more than welcome to share your comments below and tell me if you think I'm crazy or not. But I think couples  see your independence as a threat. Maybe not on a conscious level; perhaps sub-conscious. Think about it.

Two male friends -- one is taken; the other isn't. Is SHE going to be sub-consciously worried that some of the things the two guys get involved in may not be considered appropriate for a man who has a wife or a girlfriend? If the single man had a significant other too, would this decrease the likelihood of such activities from happening?

Does your male friend also sub-consciously see you as a threat to his relationship? Does he feel his girlfriend or wife is safer being around you if he knows you have your own partner?

I don't know of any discussion about this topic. Like I say, maybe this is just my own crazy theory. But since I've had a few years to think about this, it's what I've come up with. Like William Shatner would say, "Is this weird or what!"





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