Free today: Confident Kids: How Parents Can Raise Positive, Confident, Resilient and Focused Kids (The Parenting Trap) The author Karen Campbell says: "Every parent wants the best for their children. We all want them to grow up to be confident and positive adults. Raising a child to be resilient and able to deal with life's ups and downs is also something that most parents strive for. Confident Kids will give you practical strategies for shaping and improving your child's outlook and mindset. Parents have a huge influence over the way their children think and deal with life's situations and events. Happy and successful children usually grow up to be well-adjusted adults who lead fulfilling lives.
Of course most of us who are 50+ now, don't have to worry about raising children ourselves, but we do have our grandchildren to think about. This book seems to offer some likely advice. One of the co-authors, Katrina Kahler, is a World-Class educator who has been nominated for the National Inspirational Teaching Award. She is the co-author of 'The Parenting Trap' series, which include a variety of books that will assist parents in raising happy, confident and successful children. She is a highly experienced school teacher, speaker and parenting adviser and her passion involves helping kids to reach their full potential...academically, socially and personally.
Have a look at the video below to see how raising a child's confidence level can help
Of course there are people who will tell you not to overdo it. Dr. Peggy Drexler, research psychologist and gender scholar, had an article published in the Huffington Post titled, "The Key to Raising Confident Kids? Stop Complimenting Them!" Complimenting them all of the time for their efforts, regardless of how small the effort was, can create more damage than good. She says:
Research with children and families has indeed told us that praise has the opposite intended effect. It does not make children work harder, or do better. In fact, kids who are told they're bright and talented are easily discouraged when something is "too difficult;" those who are not praised in such a manner are more motivated to work harder and take on greater challenges. The unpraised, in turn, show higher levels of confidence, while over praised are more likely to lie to make their performances sound better. Praise becomes like a drug: once they get it, they need it, want it, are unable to function without it.
And the author of the book Confident Kids: How Parents Can Raise Positive, Confident, Resilient and Focused Kids (The Parenting Trap) agrees with this assessment. She says in her book, "Yes, it’s important to handle our young child's self-esteem gently, but we must be careful not to overdo it or they may miss out on understanding that they won't always win and also the all-important concept of good sportsmanship and being a good winner and loser."
Sometimes, I think I went a little too far with my 16 year old daughter. She certainly has the confidence, so much so, she doesn't feel like she needs to listen any longer. I can't help but wish, I had bought this book a few years ago. But I've got it in my library now. Maybe it will be some use with the grand children.
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