How many times have you heard the expression, "That's the way we have always done it. Don't re-invent the wheel." In some situations it may be good advice, but if you're over fifty and starting over, it's the worst advice. You have to find new ways to move on. It's easy to lay blame, but sometimes the biggest roadblock is ourselves.
When I was young boy, my parents had a small hobby farm. My mother loved ponies, so we had eighteen at one time. She was also a school teacher and loved children, so one summer she decided she would offer pony rides to children in a field by the edge of the road. And it was my brother's, and my job to help out. Sometimes we would have a number of cars stopping, and often times more than one child wanting a ride. So we would lead the ponies around a makeshift corral when the riders were little or inexperienced.
I remember it being a very warm summer. We had to make sure the ponies didn't get too hot, so off to the side of the main corral was a holding pen for the ponies who were resting up and not on duty. Our place was about a half-mile away, so we couldn't put them in the barn to rest.
Not sure how old I was at this time. I might have been ten. I had quite a bit of experience at this age with ponies. As any rider knows, when it's time to go back home, a pony will often run if you don't constrain them. This made me wonder about the holding area we had for the ponies who were not serving rides. It certainly didn't seem like much of a barrier to them at all. It was a few fence posts stuck in the ground with a loop of rope stringing them together. In a couple of places the rope was sagging, and probably didn't clear the ground more than a couple of feet. It got me wondering why those ponies just didn't step over the rope and head for home.
During a short lull in riders that afternoon, I asked my mother about this observation. She said the ponies didn't escape because they were fenced in. Of course I replied, that it wasn't much of a fence. Why didn't they just step over it? She said it was because they were used to be fenced in and not being able to escape, so they didn't know they could.
The same thing happens to a lot of us. Barriers we see as insurmountable are fencing us in out of habit. Stepping over the rope can be likened to being caught outside of our comfort zone. Sometimes it takes a monumental event before we are driven to free ourselves. It doesn't have to be this way.
A Kindle book that is free today on Amazon is called Tuning In to Inner Peace: The Surprisingly Fun Way to Transform Your Life. Joan Gregerson writes about personal growth, meditation, teaching and life. Her book is a series of 29 lessons that will help you understand how our thoughts can hold us back. If you're afraid to step over that rope, and head home, this book will give you a fun way to transform your life.
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