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How to overcome jealously

jealous-featuredJealously is a human emotion that we all share to some degree. If you're over fifty and new to being single again, some of you will no doubt feel it a little stronger than those of us who have been single for a few years. Especially if your partner has replaced you or traded you in for a newer model. It's normal to feel this way, but you have to be careful that it doesn't manifest itself into more destructive emotions such as  anger and grief. A combination of jealously mixed with feelings of betrayal can make you want to lash out. Revenge and hate can replace jealously altogether, and these negative thoughts can prevent you from moving on in your life.

It's even worse if you decide to act on these feelings. Innocent people can get hurt in the cross-fire. There are many news stories that attest to this. Like the military man in Moscow who thought his common-law wife was having an affair. So he threw her two eight-year-old (twin sisters) out of the window of his apartment. They lived on the eighth floor.

Joan Didion, an American writer, says "To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is, a dissatisfaction with self."

Catherine Revell says in her book, Jealously Survival Guide:

"Did you know that some things don’t need fixing to get fixed?   Just letting go can fix most things. If you quit meddling with things, they can fix themselves. It’s a principle of self-correction. Time can heal things all by itself if you’ll just get out of the way."

That's exactly how I feel about it as well. You just have to let it go. I know it sounds like it's one of those things that are easier said than done, but it is possible. By using positive affirmations you can actually encourage and train yourself to let these feelings go. At the same time, good dieting choices to help manage stress, and exercise will help the healing process along. According to Steve Tromans it is called re-conditioning your thinking. He uses a process that involves neuro-linguistics and hypnotherapy as you can see from this short clip below.

This may be a bit of an extreme method, and certainly very expensive way of getting control of your jealously.  I would see a professional if it was a last resort, but Catherine Revell's book, Jealously Survival Guide, may be all you need. Here is what it can do for you:

  • It will get you on the right path before you wind up in the ditch or, worse yet, in jail.
  • It will help you accept yourself even when you feel jealous and stop beating yourself up.
  • You’ll learn how to get what you want or need and you don’t have to change somebody else to do it.
  • It’s a place to come to for attitude adjustments, comfort, understanding and hopefully, a change of perspective because miracles happen when you change your perspective.

It's important too, to have very frank conversations with yourself without lying.  Sometimes jealously can be fueled by personality traits, such as the need for power and the ability to control your partner. These are issues that you may need professional help with, which goes beyond the scope of  the book.

It's being offered for free today as part of an Amazon promotion. However, if you miss it today, you can pick up a copy for $5.94. Download it now, while you can. Sill, much cheaper than neuro-linguistics and hypnotherapy. Plus, you don't have someone else messing with your brain...

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Mankind’s Greatest Quotes

pq-featuredDo you think quotes can influence daily decisions? Can they offer us guidance? Do people just read them and forget them, or do you have certain ones you have framed on your wall? Written on post-it notes and stuck to the fridge or the bathroom mirror? I think we all have favorites. One of mine is "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve". This was written by Napoleon Hill.

Even George Carlin, who is best noted for some really crude comedy, had several memorable quotes. One of my favorites was "A house is just a place to keep your stuff while you go out and get more stuff."

Patty and Jonathan Crowe have published a book titled Mankind's Greatest Quotes. I'm not sure how they determined these quotes are the greatest, but they certainly are inspirational. They say:

Throughout the ages, man has been engaged upon a quest for knowledge. Generation upon generation of man have endeavored to discover the truths which make man honorable and life worth living. In that same tradition of humanity, the greatest of these philosophers have sought as well to pass along what wisdom they have discovered that others may live a happier life and that mankind's chances for survival be enhanced. This book contains 2500 years of man's greatest wisdom, passed on in that same tradition of humanity that others may share in that wisdom.

If you're new to be fifty plus and alone, you might find it beneficial to have a book handy with some positive motivational quotes that you can refer to on occasion. This book is being offered for free today as part of an Amazon promotion, so I would urge you to click here and download it now while you can. After this promotion the regular cost of the book will be back up to $11.95.

With all the negative things happening, with the GMO Protection Act, and corruption running rampant in the government -- it bring to mind another favorite George Carlin quote: "By and large, language is a tool for concealing the truth."

Sometimes it certainly seems this way, but Mankind's Greatest Quotes seems to contain a lot of wisdom... so words can also be used to reveal the truth.

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Superfoods for Enhanced Libido

want-it-featuredLook, you're over fifty -- it's time someone had "the" sex talk with you...

Some foods that can increase your libido include: celery, raw oysters, bananas, avocado, nuts, mangoes, peaches, strawberries, eggs, liver, figs, garlic, pumpkin and chocolate. And, in Karen Groves new book, she claims you can eat your way to great sex. It covers a natural solution to problems associated with your libido.

Just because you've taken the pledge to be 50+ and alone, it doesn't mean that for the next fifty years you need to practice abstinence in your sex life. Still, many people at this age find they don't have the same desire as they did when they were younger. A lot of reasons could be at the root cause. Even stress can cause it. If you want to keep active, you might want to have a look at her new book. It's called, Eat Your Way to Great Sex -- Enjoy Superfoods for Enhanced Libido: Desire, Fertility, Energy, Erectile Function and Great Orgasms.

Karen says:

"Because statistics worldwide show that more and more people are starting to experience problems with sex drive and sexual performance. Some of these statistics are reviewed in the Foreword to this book. There are a number of factors that may be causing these problems with libido, and what you eat is one of them. The declining quality of our food supplies is very concerning, and so the Introduction takes a brief look at our food supplies and points out the importance of consuming organic natural food for libido and health, versus the mass-produced food."

It's understood that some people may have medical problems or psychological problems that affect their libido. In fact, even some medications can decrease your natural drive. You should always consult with medical professionals before you try and diagnose the problem yourself. Eating the wrong food can be the culprit too. Here is a list of foods that will kill your sex drive:

  • Brands of Kellogg cereals
  • Gin and tonics
  • Saltpeter
  • Soy
  • Mints
  • Cilantro
  • Graham crackers
  • Okra
  • Too much Licorice
  • Tuna noodle casserole
  • Granola

If you need more information why these create problems you can find it here. But again, the reason why you may have a decreased libido doesn't necessarily have to do with food. Just being out of shape or leading an un-healthy lifestyle can be the deciding factor.

You will see one of the foods mentioned in Eat Your Way to Great Sex is celery.  Alan Hirsch, M.D., author of Scentsational Sex says:

"When you chew a stalk of celery, you release androstenone and androstenol odor molecules into your mouth. They then travel up the back of your throat to your nose.  Once there, the pheromones boost your arousal, turning you on and causing your body to send off scents and signals that make you more desirable to women."

Now, doesn't that just make you want to whip it out? Um... the celery, I mean....

In Eat Your Way to Great Sex, after a brief chapter on ‘What is Libido?’ individual chapters are devoted to:

• Superfoods for Stimulating Desire
• Superfoods for Boosting Energy
• Superfoods for Boosting Fertility
• Superfoods for Good Erectile Function
• Superfoods for Great Orgasms

Each of these chapters starts with a list of foods you should avoid; mood-killing foods, foods that don’t energize, foods that can cause low fertility and problems in pregnancy, foods that can cause problems with erectile function, and foods that can cause orgasms to fizzle and fail.

Superfoods that you should include in your diet for great sex are then described in these chapters.

Tanya, who provided a review of the book says:

"This is a great book if you want to know all the right foods to, and not to, eat in order to perk up your sexual desires! As a women in the stage of perimenopause, reading this book was of great help to me since my libido has taken a sever nose dive. I have taken much of the advice outlined in the book and found that it really helped! This is a total kindle keeper!"

The book usually sells for $4.88, but because it's featured as an Amazon promotion for today, you can get it free. Click here to get your copy now, and learn how to rejuvenate your sex drive.

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Breaking Your Own Heart

breaking-heart-featuredIf you're over fifty there is a good chance that you have had more than one serious relationship in your life. You've had your heart broken a number of times. You ask the question, "Why did I let this happen again?" Baylor Barbee, author of Breaking Your Own heart, claims it's us who are breaking our own hearts. We let it happen by repeating familiar cycles.

Does this sound crazy? Rita Mae, in her book Sudden Death, says, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results."

Baylor Barbee works with a gentleman named Trent Shelton at rehabtime.org. Watch the short video below as he discusses five ways to break your own heart.

The first one he speaks of is returning to a bad situation you've left and going back for more.  I think we get trapped into thinking that people can change, and maybe if we try harder, they actually will. Like the old saying a leopard can't change its spots; but people aren't leopards.  The fact of the matter is, hoping and praying is not going to bring about change in someone else. They have to want to change. It's going to take time. It's quite possible that you need to distance yourself from the situation, before change is ever initiated.

A lot of this comes down to trust. Trent asks if you would let a thief into your house. Of course you wouldn't. The thief can't be trusted. Trust isn't something that is given. Trust is something that needs to be earned. This doesn't happen overnight. Sometimes, it can take years.

He also speaks about expecting change. He uses an example of going to McDonalds and expecting Taco Bell. It isn't going to happen. And, it's for reasons like this that you are breaking your own heart.

You already know a lot of this in your mind and I expect you've heard it all before. But your heart is telling you something different. If change is needed, you can't count on your partner. The only person you can count on is yourself. This is where change needs to start.

Breaking Your Own heart is being offered for free today as a promotion on Amazon. If you have found yourself stuck in a rut, you might want to download it and learn what can be done about it. I realize some of the readers to this blog, who may be 50 and alone, aren't happy about it. You either need to move forward and get to a place where positive changes in yourself have made you ready to love again, or choose to be happy and single.

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Easy ways to improve your memory

mem-up-featuredI don't know anyone over fifty who doesn't joke, about their memory not being as good as it used to be. A lot of it just comes naturally with age but as John Parker discusses in his book Memory: Simple, Easy, and Fun Ways to Improve Memory, there are some pretty easy ways to improve it. Of course one section of the book talks about how your diet can affect your memory, and this idea has been covered in similar posts on this website. If you type the word memory into the search box to the right, you will find articles like, Blueberries can improve your memory and Over Fifty and senior moments.

John's book is a lot more than just diet tips. He reveals techniques to put your brain in tip-top condition so you can overcome forgetfulness and recall any information anytime, anywhere, and in any situation. It has been getting some wonderful reviews, including this one below that I thought you might find useful by Aaliyah Nelson, who says:

One of the reasons I liked this book is because of the many examples. The author never assumes that just because a concept was explained that you will automatically know how to use it. Instead he provides numerous illustrations that show you what to do. Not only that, he shows you different ways to apply them in different situations. The examples are practical and reference information that you'll likely need to learn or remember, whether for school, work, or day to day life.

The book also has a section on remembering names and faces. And he offers some excellent ideas for to help you. I'll need to read this section in more detail, because it's something I have trouble with. Of course, my eyesight isn't as good as it used to be, and my hearing is less than 100%, so I really do have some valid excuses, right?

The book also mentions repetition. This is a very valuable method, and I've always found writing something down commits it to memory, but better than simply trying to make a mental note of it. When I used to go to school, I would cram for exams by writing the most important notes that I had taken over the course of the year, two to four times. I also used to get my daughter to study her spellings, by writing the words down. Of course she said it didn't help, but we tested the theory, and found that it really did.

Memory: Simple, Easy, and Fun Ways to Improve Memory is being offered for free today as an Amazon promotion. So click here to download the free Kindle version now, while you still can. It's 128 pages. if one were to print it out.

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