At 50, Barbara Grufferman said , " Years of media messages had wormed their way into my brain, tempting me to pull the proverbial blanket over my head, ready to give up and give in. I started to believe the articles, research and reports telling me that women over 50 are powerless, averse to change, glum, cranky consumers, unsexy and should step aside to make room for the infinitely more beautiful, desirable, hirable, acquisitive and loveable younger generation."
Barbara was featured in an article a couple of days ago in the Huffington Post. The article tells how she turned her world around Click here to read it. It will amaze and inspire you, as she shares her six major changes, that anyone could do.
In the first bullet point she says, "And, as a result of doing push-ups and the Plank, I'm working to keep osteoporosis at bay." I couldn't imagine what the "Plank" so when I was doing a search for this type of exercise (I assumed it was an exercise) I found a video she had uploaded to YouTube where she shows you how to do it. You can see the video below.
I don't like to hear anyone talk about feeling invisible, but sadly, that's how some people feel after they have hit 50. I mean, It's sad for a girl to reach the age where men consider her charmless, but it's worse for a man to attain the age where the girls consider him harmless. So Barbara's story can be an inspiration to us all. Andrew Cohen once said, " Most men are very attached to the idea of being male, and usually experience a lot of fear and insecurity around the idea of being a man. Most women are very identified with their gender, and also experience a tremendous amount of fear and insecurity."
The only thing about life that never changes is the fact that our lives are constantly changing. We are hit with a series of milestones, some good and others bad. As I have been divorced twice, I know how feelings of loss after losing a loved one, or divorce can have a major affect on us. And, some people see turning 50 as a pivotal point in their lives and get so depressed they just want to end it all.
No, I'm not being over dramatic. On the Psych Central website one fellow wrote in and said:
I am getting ready to turn 50 in the next month, and ever since I can remember I have set this date to die. I no longer feel wanted or needed by anyone and no one can understand this. Turning 50 is not a joke to me—it is a turning point of either life or death—doesn’t anyone care?
No one likes to talk about these things, but some people feel this way. What's worse, it could be someone you love, a friend, partner, or spouse. You may not even realize it....
For Barbara, she took this as an opportunity to get fit and even remade her career. She said. " After going through my own personal re-evaluation and transformation, it was clear that being a writer, speaker, and champion of positive aging and women's rights was my new calling and would be my new career. Between the ages of 50 and 56, I wrote a book...."
Watch the video below about the book she wrote titled The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts' Guide to Style, Sex, Health, Money, and More.
The Best of Everything after 50 provides top-dollar advice in an affordable format. When Barbara Grufferman turned fifty, she wanted to know how to be—and stay—a vibrant woman after the half-century mark. She went in search of a “What to Expect” book, but couldn’t find one. So she consulted New York City’s leading doctors, personal trainers, hair stylists, fashion gurus, and financial planners. Click here if you would like to order it from Amazon.
You will see some great testimonials on that link, and lots of great reviews. Plus there is one that is not so great. D. Summerfield writes, "If nothing else, this book deserves an extra star for its smug, self-righteous, know-it-all tone because it is so obvious that the author is not aware that she is being in any way overbearing. Just like Charles Schultz's iconic Lucy, this author knows absolutely what is best for everybody else, and is even willing to set up a cardboard stand to dispense "Psychiatric Advice for 5 cents" in order to make life for the lesser human beings just a little better."
Her comments remind me of something I hear the kids saying these days: haters gonna' hate. But you know, if you had a choice of being hated for being bold and beautiful, or pitied for being old and feeble, which would you choose?
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