The only grandmother I remember died 38 years ago. I was 15. I'll never forget her. This was mother's mother. My grandma on my father's side died when I was too young to remember her.
My brother and cousins just called her "Grammy". She was wonderful to us kids, and we were always safe at her house -- sometimes, even from our parents!!
I was always so excited about going to her house, and of course... of the treats I would receive too. Grammy didn't buy margarine like my parents did. She only bought butter. She didn't buy white bread. She bought either brown bread, or raisin bread. And having a little chocolate milk with it never hurt either. I mean, when I was a kid, Wylie MacLellan (our cousin) was our milk man. Now, you can rest assured he delivered very rich and creamy milk.... but it wasn't chocolate.....
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First, I realize there are tricks men use to get women to date them too. Maybe one of these days I will write an article about it. But for this post I want to discuss an article I found on this website. If you click the link, the article will open in a popup.
When I read that article, I realized that some women may to a lot more planning when it comes to relationships. I couldn't help but think that most guys just kind of go with the flow. And we're happy not to put labels on our relationships. As a good friend of mine often says, "it is what it is".
Don't push him into embarrassing situations as suggested as #1 in the article. That just makes him feel like a cage is being closed around him. He won't talk about it, but he won't like it either. And he'll make excuses to avoid your friend in future social gatherings.
#2 in the article is just more fluff of the same nature. Embarrassing a guy isn't going to get you a date with him.
#3 isn't so bad. Sure invite him to hang out with you and your friends, but at the same time... don't take it personally if he says no. As the author suggests he will appreciate the gesture of friendship, but hanging out with a bunch of people he doesn't know likely is very low priority for him.
If it does happen, and he is going to be at your place for a few minutes to pick you up, you'd best be hiding any girly magazines like Cosmopolitan! Some women take the advice of articles they read in these type of magazines. When we see them laying around, it makes us wonder what kind of bad ideas you may have already learned. Then, on the other hand, I've seen guys (and ones that were good at picking up women) read these kind magazines. I've been told it helps them know how women think.
The problem with the advice in the article, and similar articles in other magazines, is that doing some planning and manipulating potential outcomes. If it was to ever come out... no man like to feel like he's been played. The most important thing in ANY relationship is trust.
Rather than reading articles that could steer you down the wrong course, you would be much better taking the advice if a professional like Doctor Paul R. VeHorn. Dr. Paul did graduate studies in behavior psychology and is an International Relationship Consultant.
Dr. Paul's philosophy is based on his research and observations developed through years as a nationwide talk show host! Thousands of listeners and viewers have shared their experiences and feelings with him. If you are truly seeking a relationship, an engagement, or a marriage, then Boomer Girls is an absolute must reference for your personal guide to men and dating!
If you're a woman and interested in bagging yourself another partner at this stage in the game, you might want to have a look at Boomer Girls (A Boomer Woman's Guide To Men & Dating) and learn methods that don't utilize tricky and manipulation. Watch the video below to see what Dr. Paul says about trust.
That's a wrap for this post. But if you're a man reading this post, please use the comment section below and tell us how you feel about any of these tricks or others that may have been used on you. And of course.... woman readers are welcome to voice their opinions on trust and trickery too.
My brother Rob, his wife Diana, and I took Mom (as seen in the picture to the left) out for lunch today. It's always great to get together. Funny how there seems to be too few occasions that we can get together. None of the kids were there, so it was just the four of us.
The restaurant was packed at lunch time. It took 45 minutes for the food to come to the table. That's all-right though. It gave us a lot more time to visit. I gave her a movie I recently saw called A shine of Rainbowswhich is about a mother (Connie Nielsen). Connie is mesmerizing in this role. Actually, the whole cast is wonderful. It's a tear-jerker, and although I don't normally watch these kind of movies, it came on the TV one day when I didn't have much to do, and I couldn't get away from it.
Of course.... nothing so dramatic happened in our lives, but my mother has always been a special person, and I'm sure it was because of her, that we have all of these wonderful memories to hold onto of growing up as a family. She was the glue that held everything together.
My daughter's mother lives 3500 miles from us. It seems sometimes I almost have to be both parents. It can be a bit of a struggle at times, but I try to make sure she doesn't want for anything, and there are times when everything comes to a boil in her life where she has to talk to someone. I try to listen, and not be to judgmental. If nothing else, I hope I can pass onto my daughter, the sense of love and well-being that my mother passed on to each of us. Having her for a mother, was one of the greatest gifts I could ever receive.