Some people suffer from mediocrity. I don't. I enjoy it! But. it's one thing living alone this way, it's entirely another thing if your marriage suffers from it. If you aren't quite ready to join us here at 50alone.com, you might want to re-examine your relationship to make sure you don't wind up here by mistake. Don't get me wrong! You're always welcome. Just need to be sure you're here by your own choice.
I was browsing through titles of books at Amazon this morning. Ran across one by Michael Boatman, titled "God Laughs When You Die". Okay! Let him have the last laugh if he must. But don't let him, or anyone else, laugh now because your marriage is a joke. While you're living, there is still hope.
Please, take my advice -- it never did ME any good... It doesn't matter if youare the one who is thinking of leaving. It will still be a traumatic experience for everyone involved, including children, family and friends. Having two failed marriages behind me, I know a little bit about it.
Justin Davis says:
"The biggest threat to any marriage isn’t infidelity or miscommunication. The greatest enemy is ordinary. Ordinary marriages lose hope. Ordinary marriages lack vision. Ordinary marriages give in to compromise. Ordinary is the belief that this is as good as it will ever get. And when we begin to settle for ordinary, it’s easy to move from “I do” to 'I’m done'."
Justin may have written my life story. It sounds like my last marriage. Most of the time, we were both working two jobs each, and busy trying to raise our daughter and manage our bills. It didn't leave a lot of time for each other.
In Justin's book, Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough, Justin and Trisha take us inside the slow fade that occurred in their own marriage—each telling the story from their own perspective. Together, they reveal the mistakes they made, the work they avoided, the thoughts and feelings that led to an affair and near divorce, and finally, the heart-change that had to occur in both of them before they could experience the hope, healing, and restoration of a truly extraordinary marriage.
Here is a an excerpt that I found intriguing:
Can you name any area of your life you can neglect and then expect to see improvement?
Does this work with your body? Nope. Ignore it, and you’ll get fat.
Does this work with your business? Nope. Ignore it, and it will crash.
Does this work with your yard? Nope. Ignore it and, it will be overrun by weeds.
So why in the world do we think we can put our marriages on autopilot and they will still be what God wants them to be?
Hard questions? Maybe. Then, if you want to keep what you have, perhaps you will feel the need to answer them. I must confess, I did not read the whole book. I scanned through it. I think it will offer everyone who is trying to make their marriage work some insight into how to change an ordinary marriage into an extraordinary marriage. Don't take my word for it though. There are over 150 reviews of this book on Amazon (which is being offered for free today) and you can click here to read them.
Now, even if you are a proud, card carrying member, of 50alone.com, there's a chance that some of you might eventually get tired of living alone, and may meet someone who changes your mind. We ain't kickin' you out of the club. We're rootin' for ya'. It's understandable that some people were never meant to live alone, and they thrive as part of a couple. If this is you, get this book today while it's free.
You know how some days you get that urge to rearrange all of the furniture? Ya', no... I don't get it either 'cause I'm a man. The furniture is sitting in exactly the same spot since I bought this house and moved in. Maybe it will stay there; maybe it won't...
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